It’s Not Too Late

Sep 28, 2010 by

It’s Not Too Late

When you were a kid, dreaming about your future, what was it you saw?  What did you want to be? Why? What does your future look like now? What do you dream about now?

Why aren’t you doing something about it?

Childhood Dreams

Children are expert dreamers, because nothing seems impossible. Every child can grow up to be anything–a doctor, a ballerina, an astronaut, President. Most children try on various dreams and futures for size. I know I did.

Through various stages in childhood I wanted to be: a teacher, a writer, an actress, an astronomer, an Olympic gymnast, a veterinarian, a lawyer and a marine biologist. (I’m pretty certain after hearing this from people repeatedly that most girls want to be a marine biologist at some point, just so they can play with the dolphins) Considering I’m currently a lawyer, a teacher, a writer and an actress, I guess I didn’t do too badly on my list. But looking it over, and considering what I’ve accomplished, there’s been a nagging sense of “not enough” that I’ve struggled with for a while, a questioning of path that has led me to some drastic re-envisioning of just what each of those words means for me, and to me.

Straying From the Well-Trod Path

Truth time: I’m almost 35. The mere sound of that number occasionally sends a cold chill down my spine now and again.  By my age, society says we shouldn’t be questioning our path anymore. We should be settling down and having kids and buying a house and planning for our retirement. We should be contributing members of society on a safe and well-trod path. A quick inventory of my Facebook page and the statuses and lives of my high school graduating class does nothing to disabuse me of this notion. There are pictures of smiling kids and discussions of house renovations and a sense that everyone else is moving along in a direction I’ve no desire to walk.

Thing is–I’ve always had a sneaking suspicion that most of the coolest things in life are off that well-trod path.

Still, when I started thinking, and then talking, about deviating from that path, of striking off on my own into a new frontier, I got a lot of concerned looks, and a few people saying things like, “well, that’s all well and good in your twenties, but don’t you think it’s time you settled down? You have a good job, a stable income, a solid retirement plan, health insurance…”

They aren’t wrong. I do have all of those things. But it seems to me that there has to be more to life than security and a good benefits package.

It’s that nagging feeling the “all well and good when you’re young” idea that I had to stumble around. I mean, aren’t I young? Is 35 too old to redesign my life? I’ve had friends who are nearly a decade younger tell me that they feel that all their chances passed them by. It was even a recurring theme on True Blood this season (and forgive me my deviation into vampire fiction in a serious post, but it bears mentioning). Jason Stackhouse was forced to confront the possible breaking of his high school record, and the punk kid about to do it was belittling Jason’s life, making it clear that glory is for the young, and Jason (who can’t be even 30 yet) had missed his chance to get out, to do something, to live his dreams and be the man he wanted to be. Well, I call bullshit.

It’s Not Too Late

It’s not too late.

Did you hear me? It’s not too late. Not for me, not for you. I don’t care if you are 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 or well settled into your retirement. It’s not too late. If you’re reading this now, it’s not too late. If there is something nagging at your soul, begging to be born, it’s not too late. If you look at your life, and it is not what you want it to be, it’s not too late. If you dread going to work every morning or feel like you’re stuck in the prison of your own choices, it’s not too late.

In the words of Bon Jovi, “I just wanna live while I’m alive, ‘cause it’s my life.” (You should probably get used to the pop culture references. It’s liable to happen often. You’ve been warned)

It’s your life. You only get one shot at it. It’s not too late to make it everything you ever dreamed. You’re not too old. Your chances haven’t passed you by. Chances and choices surround you, in every moment, and with every breath.

So, what did you want to be when you grew up?  What do you want to be now?

It’s not too late.

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  1. Michelle

    This is a message more people need to hear. I spent most of my 20s thinking it was already too late for me because I'd committed the horrendous crime of waffling a bit about my major and explored a few dead-end jobs and got sick. Now that I'm beginning my 30s I feel grown up enough to realize that I can do whatever I feel like doing at any stage in my life. I do wish I hadn't spent 7ish years freaking out that I wasn't on a stable career path or living my dream yet, because seven years is a long time to flail without believing anything good, but maybe that was how long I needed to flail before I got fed up with it and started something new.

    • I think sometimes it does take a while for it to sink in. I mean, I know I was waffling a lot before I finally got a stronger sense of what I really wanted. It was always "to write," but where was that going? I was sitting around, waiting to be discovered and hating life, instead of living each adventure as it came. Since sort of shifting, and opening up to possibilities, life has been a lot happier, and I'm excited about the future, finally.

      Just think of all the awesome stuff you're doing with music and how wonderful it is, even if it's frustrating. I'm really so very, very proud of you. *hugs*

      Also, yay! My first comment on the blog! I am very excited. <3

  2. Maggie

    this is awesome! thank you!

  3. I just subscribed to your blog today (linked from a post you wrote for Christine Kane, I believe) and I wanted to share that I LOVE this older post. I am currently at a crossroads at age almost 42 (on Jan 18th) and I REALLY want to move in a new direction but am having tremendous difficulty determining what that direction should be. I feel that I need a coach but don't know how to find one and am fearful of an enormous financial commitment while I am unemployed. I am going to check out your coaching info and get in touch that way. But I wanted you to know that this post touched me, as did the one you wrote for Christine. Your writing is powerfully authentic, which is tremendously important to me. Peace.

    • **I'm "reposting" this as it hasn't shown up an hour after I tried to post it before. Not sure what's going on witht he commenting system. If you get 2 comments that say the same thing, that's why! :-)*

      Hi Kimberly! Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting and subscribing. I'm really happy to hear that the post touched you, and provided some inspiration. I know the feeling so very well of being at that crossroads and looking around and trying to decide which path to take. I'm working on an eBook at the moment that I think you might like about ways to start figuring out your passion and path. It will be free to all my subscribers as soon as I get it done, like Christine's Vision Board guide, and I hope will provide as much value.

      You probably noticed the Coaching page is still under construction, which is my big oops of 2010! One of my January goals is to get the website fully done, as I've been distracted from my professional goals by my personal ones the past couple of months. If you'd like to email me with more information about what you're looking for and your situation, we can set up a free coaching consultation to discuss if I might be the right person for you to work with. I totally understand the fear of financial commitments at this point, but I offer several different levels you can work with me at. There's no commitment in finding out if we might be a good fit, and if so, we can then discuss how I might be able to help at a level you're comfortable with.

      You can reach me directly by email at charity@pursuingbliss.com to let me know how I could be of help and when might be a good time to talk, if you'd like.

      I hope you're having a great day, and thanks so much for stopping by, and letting me know you're here! :-)

  4. Oops – wanted to subs!cribe to comments so I had to comment again – it's me again, Kimberly from Kats Eye On Life!

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